build: add missing options to help message

This commit add missing options to the Windows help message and
removes options that no longer exist (test-uv).

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/16707


Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Gireesh Punathil <gpunathi@in.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>