http: make maximum header size configurable per-stream or per-server

Make `maxHeaderSize` a.k.a. `--max-header-size` configurable now that
the legacy parser is gone (which only supported a single global value).

Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/30567

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/30570


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: David Carlier <devnexen@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Sam Roberts <vieuxtech@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Denys Otrishko <shishugi@gmail.com>