crypto: make ALPN the same for OpenSSL 1.0.2 & 1.1.0

This is kind of hairy. OpenSSL 1.0.2 ignored the return value and always
treated everything as SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_NOACK (so the comment was wrong and
Node was never sending a warning alert). OpenSSL 1.1.0 honors
SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_NOACK vs SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_FATAL_ALERT and treats everything
unknown as SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_FATAL_ALERT.

Since this is a behavior change (tests break too), start by aligning
everything on SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_NOACK. If sending no_application_protocol
is desirable in the future, this can by changed to
SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_FATAL_ALERT with whatever deprecation process is
appropriate.

However, note that, contrary to
https://rt.openssl.org/Ticket/Display.html?id=3463#txn-54498,
SSL_TLSEXT_ERR_FATAL_ALERT is *not* useful to a server with no fallback
protocol. Even if such mismatches were rejected, such a server must
*still* account for the fallback protocol case when the client does not
advertise ALPN at all. Thus this may not be worth bothering.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/16130


Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Rod Vagg <rod@vagg.org>