http: reafactor incoming message destroy

Destroy the underlying socket only if it is not ready destroyed. Wait
for the stream to finish in that case.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/33035
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/30625


Reviewed-By: Robert Nagy <ronagy@icloud.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>