child_process: add callback parameter to .send()

Add an optional callback parameter to `ChildProcess.prototype.send()`
that is invoked when the message has been sent.

Juggle the control channel's reference count so that in-flight messages
keep the event loop (and therefore the process) alive until they have
been sent.

`ChildProcess.prototype.send()` and `process.send()` used to operate
synchronously but became asynchronous in commit libuv/libuv@393c1c5
("unix: set non-block mode in uv_{pipe,tcp,udp}_open"), which landed
in io.js in commit 07bd05ba ("deps: update libuv to 1.2.1").

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/760
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/2620


Reviewed-By: trevnorris - Trevor Norris <trev.norris@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: jasnell - James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>