http,https,tls: switch to WHATWG URL parser

This switches the url parser from `url.parse()` to the WHATWG URL
parser while keeping `url.parse()` as fallback.

Also add tests for invalid url deprecations and correct hostname
checks.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20270
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/19468


Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Tiancheng "Timothy" Gu <timothygu99@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Daijiro Wachi <daijiro.wachi@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Trivikram Kamat <trivikr.dev@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>