build: extract common code from NODE_EXE/_G_EXE

This commit extracts common parts of the NODE_EXE, and NODE_G_EXE
recipes into a canned reciepe to reduce some code duplication.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/22310


Reviewed-By: Jon Moss <me@jonathanmoss.me>
Reviewed-By: Minwoo Jung <minwoo@nodesource.com>
Reviewed-By: Refael Ackermann <refack@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>