src: don't use deprecated OpenSSL APIs

The extra headers are needed when deprecated APIs are disabled as ssl.h
no longer includes them implicitly.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/30812


Reviewed-By: Sam Roberts <vieuxtech@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: David Carlier <devnexen@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>