deps: upgrade to c-ares v1.16.0

Refs: https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/releases/tag/cares-1_16_0

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32246


Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: David Carlier <devnexen@gmail.com>