stream: fix destroy() behavior

Ensure errorEmitted is always set. Only emit 'error' once.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/29058


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Franziska Hinkelmann <franziska.hinkelmann@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>