deps: add ngtcp2 and nghttp3

Reintroduces the ngtcp2 and nghttp3 dependencies, building those by
default if the vendored-in openssl (with QUIC support) is used or the
shared openssl defines `OPENSSL_INFO_QUIC`.

Upates the version metadata to reflect whether ngtcp2 and nghttp3 are
present.

ngtcp2 as of
https://github.com/ngtcp2/ngtcp2/commit/2381f7f7b633602d83ad3de997153df730b1f649
nghttp3 as of
https://github.com/ngtcp2/nghttp3/commit/66ad30f0a8f5164f87fbc83b37628f8f6d9ba608



Signed-off-by: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/37682


Reviewed-By: Daniel Bevenius <daniel.bevenius@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>