stream: ensure writable.destroy() emits error once

Prevent the `'error'` event from being emitted multiple times if
`writable.destroy()` is called with an error before the `_destroy()`
callback is called.

Emit the first error, discard all others.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/26057
Backport-PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/28000
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/26015


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>