errors: improve the description of ERR_INVALID_ARG_VALUE

- Allow user to customize why the argument is invalid
- Display the argument with util.inspect so null bytes can be
  displayed properly.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/18358


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Jon Moss <me@jonathanmoss.me>