src: cleanup per-isolate state on platform on isolate unregister

Clean up once all references to an `Isolate*` are gone from the
`NodePlatform`, rather than waiting for the `PerIsolatePlatformData`
struct to be deleted since there may be cyclic references between
that struct and the individual tasks.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/20876


Reviewed-By: Gireesh Punathil <gpunathi@in.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Benjamin Gruenbaum <benjamingr@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Shingo Inoue <leko.noor@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Tiancheng "Timothy" Gu <timothygu99@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: John-David Dalton <john.david.dalton@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Gus Caplan <me@gus.host>