stream: fix multiple Writable.destroy() calls

Calling Writable.destroy() multiple times in the same tick
could cause an assertion error.

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/38189

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/38221


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Luigi Pinca <luigipinca@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Nitzan Uziely <linkgoron@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>