vm: move options checks from C++ to JS

Also introduces stronger type validations for options passed to vm
functions.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19398


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Joyee Cheung <joyeec9h3@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>