build: turn on custom V8 snapshot by default

This patch re-enables custom V8 snapshot integration. Also renames
the experimental configure switch from `--with-node-snapshot`
to `--without-node-snapshot` to be consistent with`--without-snapshot`
which is used for the default V8 snapshot.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/28181
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/27365
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/17058


Reviewed-By: Michaël Zasso <targos@protonmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Gus Caplan <me@gus.host>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Refael Ackermann (רפאל פלחי) <refack@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>