src: add error code helpers to src/node_errors.h

This commit adds node::ERR_*(isolate, message) helpers in
the C++ land to assign error codes to existing C++ errors.

The following errors are added:

- ERR_MEMORY_ALLOCATION_FAILED
- ERR_STRING_TOO_LARGE

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/19739
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/3175
Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/9489


Reviewed-By: Gus Caplan <me@gus.host>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>