deps: apply missed updates from c-ares 1.17.1

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/39653
Refs: https://github.com/c-ares/c-ares/pull/349
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/36207


Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <rlau@redhat.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>