tls: provide default cipher list from command line

Avoid storing data that depends on command line options on internal
bindings. This is generally a cleaner way of accessing CLI options.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/32760


Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: David Carlier <devnexen@gmail.com>