tls: support TLS min/max protocol defaults in CLI

Backport CLI switches for default TLS versions:
- `--tls-max-v1.2`
- `--tls-min-v1.0`
- `--tls-min-v1.1`
- `--tls-min-v1.2`

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/27946


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>
Reviewed-By: Ben Noordhuis <info@bnoordhuis.nl>
Reviewed-By: Beth Griggs <Bethany.Griggs@uk.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Shelley Vohr <codebytere@gmail.com>