build,src,test,doc: enable FIPS for OpenSSL 3.0

This commit enables FIPS when Node.js is dynamically linking against
quictls/openssl-3.0.

BUILDING.md has been updated with instructions to configure and build
quictls/openssl 3.0.0-alpha-15 and includes a couple of work-arounds
which I believe are fixed in alpha-16 and can be removed when alpha-16
is available. The information might be a little too detailed/verbose
but I thought it would be helpful to at least initially include all the
steps.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/38633


Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <rlau@redhat.com>
Reviewed-By: Michael Dawson <midawson@redhat.com>