stream: fix async iterator destroyed error order

There was an edge case where if _destroy calls the error callback
later than one tick the iterator would complete early and not
propgate the error.

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31314


Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Ruben Bridgewater <ruben@bridgewater.de>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Minwoo Jung <nodecorelab@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: James M Snell <jasnell@gmail.com>

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/31700


Reviewed-By: Anna Henningsen <anna@addaleax.net>