tls: improve debugging assertion

Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/22618

PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/22625


Reviewed-By: Anatoli Papirovski <apapirovski@mac.com>
Reviewed-By: Trivikram Kamat <trivikr.dev@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Colin Ihrig <cjihrig@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Tobias Nießen <tniessen@tnie.de>
Reviewed-By: Richard Lau <riclau@uk.ibm.com>
Reviewed-By: Michaël Zasso <targos@protonmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>