drivers/pinctrl: grab default handles from device core

This makes the device core auto-grab the pinctrl handle and set
the "default" (PINCTRL_STATE_DEFAULT) state for every device
that is present in the device model right before probe. This will
account for the lion's share of embedded silicon devcies.

A modification of the semantics for pinctrl_get() is also done:
previously if the pinctrl handle for a certain device was already
taken, the pinctrl core would return an error. Now, since the
core may have already default-grabbed the handle and set its
state to "default", if the handle was already taken, this will
be disregarded and the located, previously instanitated handle
will be returned to the caller.

This way all code in drivers explicitly requesting their pinctrl
handlers will still be functional, and drivers that want to
explicitly retrieve and switch their handles can still do that.
But if the desired functionality is just boilerplate of this
type in the probe() function:

struct pinctrl  *p;

p...