audit: fix auditd/kernel connection state tracking

What started as a rather straightforward race condition reported by
Dmitry using the syzkaller fuzzer ended up revealing some major
problems with how the audit subsystem managed its netlink sockets and
its connection with the userspace audit daemon.  Fixing this properly
had quite the cascading effect and what we are left with is this rather
large and complicated patch.  My initial goal was to try and decompose
this patch into multiple smaller patches, but the way these changes
are intertwined makes it difficult to split these changes into
meaningful pieces that don't break or somehow make things worse for
the intermediate states.

The patch makes a number of changes, but the most significant are
highlighted below:

* The auditd tracking variables, e.g. audit_sock, are now gone and
replaced by a RCU/spin_lock protected variable auditd_conn which is
a structure containing all of the auditd tracking information.

* We no longer track the auditd sock directl...