* Add test_class_sh_property_non_owning.cpp,py

Failing:

```
__________________________________________________________ test_persistent_holder __________________________________________________________

    def test_persistent_holder():
        h = m.DataFieldsHolder(2)
>       c = h.vec_at(0).core_fld
E       RuntimeError: Non-owning holder (loaded_as_shared_ptr).

h          = <pybind11_tests.class_sh_property_non_owning.DataFieldsHolder object at 0x7fabab516470>

test_class_sh_property_non_owning.py:6: RuntimeError
__________________________________________________________ test_temporary_holder ___________________________________________________________

    def test_temporary_holder():
        d = m.DataFieldsHolder(2).vec_at(1)
>       c = d.core_fld
E       RuntimeError: Non-owning holder (loaded_as_shared_ptr).

d          = <pybind11_tests.class_sh_property_non_owning.DataField object at 0x7fabab548770>

test_class_sh_property_non_owning.py:13: RuntimeError
```

* Introduce `shared_ptr_from_python(responsible_parent)` and use in all `property_cpp_function`s with `const shared_ptr<T> &` arguments.

Tests are incomplete.

* Complete tests.

* Add comment for `smart_holder_type_caster_load<T>::shared_ptr_from_python`

* docs: changelog for 2.10.4

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* Apply suggestions from code review

* Update docs/changelog.rst

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Remove test code that does not exercise anything in pybind11, but breaks between Python 3.12alpha3 (still working) and 3.12alpha6 (broken): (#4559)

```
str(OrderedDict([(1, "a"), (2, "b")]))
```

Old:
```
OrderedDict([(1, 'a'), (2, 'b')])
```

New:
```
OrderedDict({1: 'a', 2: 'b'})
```

See also: https://github.com/python/cpython/issues/101446

updates:
- [github.com/charliermarsh/ruff-pre-commit: v0.0.251 → v0.0.254](https://github.com/charliermarsh/ruff-pre-commit/compare/v0.0.251...v0.0.254)
- [github.com/PyCQA/pylint: v2.16.1 → v2.16.4](https://github.com/PyCQA/pylint/compare/v2.16.1...v2.16.4)
- [github.com/pre-commit/mirrors-mypy: v0.991 → v1.0.1](https://github.com/pre-commit/mirrors-mypy/compare/v0.991...v1.0.1

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* Move try_as_void_ptr_capsule out from modified_type_caster_generic_load_impl.

* Try fixing clangtidy

Without this, it's impossible to get feature parity between detection
mechanisms. Both the pkg-config file and the cmake config set their
versions, but the python probe script didn't provide an option for this.

So you could print the compiler flags for using it, but you could not
check what you got.

This reverts commit 44c2d89c.

This comment is unrelated to having T in tparam or not.
Probably a typo.
Copied the correct one here.

Resolve https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/issues/4518

Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>

Background: https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/pull/4285#issuecomment-1435066554

```
flake8...................................................................Failed
- hook id: flake8
- exit code: 1

pybind11/setup_helpers.py:177:13: B028 No explicit stacklevel keyword argument found. The warn method from the warnings module uses a stacklevel of 1 by default. This will only show a stack trace for the line on which the warn method is called. It is therefore recommended to use a stacklevel of 2 or greater to provide more information to the user.
            warnings.warn("You cannot safely change the cxx_level after setting it!")
            ^
```

```
flake8...................................................................Failed
- hook id: flake8
- exit code: 1

pybind11/setup_helpers.py:177:13: B028 No explicit stacklevel keyword argument found. The warn method from the warnings module uses a stacklevel of 1 by default. This will only show a stack trace for the line on which the warn method is called. It is therefore recommended to use a stacklevel of 2 or greater to provide more information to the user.
            warnings.warn("You cannot safely change the cxx_level after setting it!")
            ^
```

This reverts commit 3cef8092.

* Revert "Go back to CMake 3.25.2 (#4496)"

This reverts commit b8f28551.

* Apply patch provided by @bradking (with pre-commit cmake-format auto fixes).

https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/pull/4503#issuecomment-1424768172

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* Always display python type information in cast errors

* Address comments

* Update comment

This reverts commit b2c1978c.

See #4500 for background.

updates:
- [github.com/PyCQA/pylint: v2.16.0 → v2.16.1](https://github.com/PyCQA/pylint/compare/v2.16.0...v2.16.1

)

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* Keep registered types until after Py_Finalize(). Fix #4459

* Address reviewer comments

Bumps [ilammy/msvc-dev-cmd](https://github.com/ilammy/msvc-dev-cmd) from 1.12.0 to 1.12.1.
- [Release notes](https://github.com/ilammy/msvc-dev-cmd/releases)
- [Commits](https://github.com/ilammy/msvc-dev-cmd/compare/v1.12.0...v1.12.1

)

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