Make string conversion stricter (#695)

* Make string conversion stricter

The string conversion logic added in PR #624 for all std::basic_strings
was derived from the old std::wstring logic, but that was underused and
turns out to have had a bug in accepting almost anything convertible to
unicode, while the previous std::string logic was much stricter.  This
restores the previous std::string logic by only allowing actual unicode
or string types.

Fixes #685.

* Added missing 'requires numpy' decorator

(I forgot that the change to a global decorator here is in the
not-yet-merged Eigen PR)