Prefer non-converting argument overloads

This changes the function dispatching code for overloaded functions into
a two-pass procedure where we first try all overloads with
`convert=false` for all arguments.  If no function calls succeeds in the
first pass, we then try a second pass where we allow arguments to have
`convert=true` (unless, of course, the argument was explicitly specified
with `py::arg().noconvert()`).

For non-overloaded methods, the two-pass procedure is skipped (we just
make the overload-allowed call).  The second pass is also skipped if it
would result in the same thing (i.e. where all arguments are
`.noconvert()` arguments).