Add py::reinterpret_borrow<T>()/steal<T>() for low-level unchecked casts

The pytype converting constructors are convenient and safe for user
code, but for library internals the additional type checks and possible
conversions are sometimes not desired. `reinterpret_borrow<T>()` and
`reinterpret_steal<T>()` serve as the low-level unsafe counterparts
of `cast<T>()`.

This deprecates the `object(handle, bool)` constructor.

Renamed `borrowed` parameter to `is_borrowed` to avoid shadowing
warnings on MSVC.