Fail static_assert when trying to reference non-referencable types

The previous commit to address #392 triggers a compiler warning about
returning a reference to a local variable, which is *not* a false alarm:
the following:

    py::cast<int &>(o)

(which happens internally in an overload declaration) really is
returning a reference to a local, because the cast operators for the
type_caster for numeric types returns a reference to its own member.

This commit adds a static_assert to make that a compilation failure
rather than returning a reference into about-to-be-freed memory.

Incidentally, this is also a fix for #219, which is exactly the same
issue: we can't reference numeric primitives that are cast from
wrappers around python numeric types.