Use numpy rather than Eigen for copying

We're current copy by creating an Eigen::Map into the input numpy
array, then assigning that to the basic eigen type, effectively having
Eigen do the copy.  That doesn't work for negative strides, though:
Eigen doesn't allow them.

This commit makes numpy do the copying instead by allocating the eigen
type, then having numpy copy from the input array into a numpy reference
into the eigen object's data.  This also saves a copy when type
conversion is required: numpy can do the conversion on-the-fly as part
of the copy.

Finally this commit also makes non-reference parameters respect the
convert flag, declining the load when called in a noconvert pass with a
convertible, but non-array input or an array with the wrong dtype.