Detect std::pair non-copyability

Pre-C++17, std::pair can technically have an copy constructor even
though it can't actually be invoked without a compilation failure (due
to the underlying types being non-copyable).  Most stls, including
libc++ since ~3.4, use the C++17 behaviour of not exposing an uncallable
copy constructor, but FreeBSD deliberately broke their libc++ to
preserve the nonsensical behaviour
(https://svnweb.freebsd.org/base?view=revision&revision=261801).

This updates pybind's internal `is_copy_constructible` to also detect
the std::pair case under pre-C++17.

This also everything (except for a couple cases in the internal version)
to use the internal `is_copy_constructible` rather than
`std::is_copy_constructible`.