Make PYBIND11_CPP_STANDARD work under MSVC

Under MSVC we were ignoring PYBIND11_CPP_STANDARD and simply not
passing any standard (which makes MSVC default to its C++14 mode).

MSVC 2015u3 added the `/std:c++14` and `/std:c++latest` flags; the
latter, under MSVC 2017, enables some C++17 features (such as
`std::optional` and `std::variant`), so it is something we need to
start supporting under MSVC.

This makes the PYBIND11_CPP_STANDARD cmake variable work under MSVC,
defaulting it to /std:c++14 (matching the default -std=c++14 for
non-MSVC).

It also adds a new appveyor test running under MSVC 2017 with
/std:c++latest, which runs (and passes) the
`std::optional`/`std::variant` tests.

Also updated the documentation to clarify the c++ flags and add show
MSVC flag examples.