Replace `ubuntu-latest` with `ubuntu-22.04` (#4382)

* Replace 🐍 3.6 • ubuntu-latest • x64 -DPYBIND11_FINDPYTHON=ON -DCMAKE_CXX_FLAGS="-D_=1" with 3.9

* Revert "Replace 🐍 3.6 • ubuntu-latest • x64 -DPYBIND11_FINDPYTHON=ON -DCMAKE_CXX_FLAGS="-D_=1" with 3.9"

This reverts commit 3ec984e1ed7265ac152e6760c68a0bad97d5a2bd.

* Systematically change all active ubuntu-latest to ubuntu-20.04, except in upstream.yml

* Revert "Systematically change all active ubuntu-latest to ubuntu-20.04, except in upstream.yml"

This reverts commit cdfd99526a9d3c172691685ac17054bfe76590fc.

* Change only some ubuntu-latest to ubuntu-20.04