Make `init_holder` do registration, and rename to `init_instance`

The instance registration for offset base types fails (under macOS, with
a segfault) in the presense of virtual base types.  The issue occurs
when trying to `static_cast<Base *>(derived_ptr)` when `derived_ptr` has
been allocated (via `operator new`) but not initialized.

This commit fixes the issue by moving the addition to
`registered_instances` into `init_holder` rather than immediately after
value pointer allocation.

This also renames it to `init_instance` since it does more than holder
initialization now.  (I also further renamed `init_holder_helper` to
`init_holder` since `init_holder` isn't used anymore).

Fixes #959.