When determining if a shared_ptr already exists, use a test on the we… (#2819)

* When determining if a shared_ptr already exists, use a test on the weak_ptr instead of a try/catch block.

* When determining if a shared_ptr already exists, use a test on the weak_ptr instead of a try/catch block.

* weak_from_this is only available in C++17 and later

* Switch to use feature flag instead of C++ version flag.

* Add Microsoft-specific check.

* Avoid undefined preprocessor macro warning treated as error.

* Simplify shared_from_this in init_holder

* Include <version> in detail/common.h (~stolen~ borrowed from @bstaletic's #2816)

* Move class_::get_shared_from_this to detail::try_get_shared_from_this

* Simplify try_get_shared_from_this by using weak_ptr::lock()

Co-authored-by: Yannick Jadoul <yannick.jadoul@belgacom.net>