feat: deprecate public constructors of module_ class (#2552)

* Deprecated public constructors of module

* Turn documentation comment of module_::add_object into valid doxygen documentation

* Move definition of PYBIND11_DETAIL_MODULE_STATIC_DEF and PYBIND11_DETAIL_MODULE_CREATE macros up

* Move detail::create_top_level_module to module_::create_extension_module, and unify Python 2 and 3 signature again

* Throw error_already_set if module creation fails in module_::create_extension_module

* Mention module_::create_extension_module in deprecation warning message of module_::module_