CDRIVER-3717 show dev packages in install instructions (#1270)

* update Debian and Ubuntu instructions

Use `-dev` packages in default instructions. Users reading instructions may be more likely to want to build applications with the C driver.

Link to Debian package pages to reference version.

fix format on debian instructions

* update Fedora and Red Hat instructions

Use `-devel` packages in default instructions. Users reading instructions may be more likely to want to build applications with the C driver.

* simplify links

* use `apt-cache policy` instead of linking to Debian