clang-tidy and clang-query wont crash with invalid command line options

Summary: Motivated by [[ https://bugs.llvm.org/show_bug.cgi?id=46141 | clang-tidy crashed for unknown command line argument. ]]

Reviewers: aaron.ballman, alexfh

Reviewed By: aaron.ballman

Subscribers: cfe-commits

Tags: #clang

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D80879