[AMDGPU] Less aggressively break large PHIs

In some cases, breaking large PHIs can very negatively affect
performance (3x more instructions observed in a particular test case).

This patch adds some basic profitability heuristics to help with some of these issues without affecting the "good" cases.
e.g. avoid breaking PHIs if it causes back-and-forth between vector/scalar form for no good reason.

Fixes SWDEV-392803
Fixes SWDEV-393781
Fixes SWDEV-394228

Reviewed By: arsenm

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D147786