[X86] Fold BLEND(PERMUTE(X),PERMUTE(Y)) -> PERMUTE(BLEND(X,Y)) (#90219)

If we don't demand the same element from both single source shuffles (permutes), then attempt to blend the sources together first and then perform a merged permute.

For vXi16 blends we have to be careful as these are much more likely to involve byte/word vector shuffles that will result in the creation of additional shuffle instructions.

This fold might be worth it for VSELECT with constant masks on AVX512 targets, but I haven't investigated this yet, but I've tried to write combineBlendOfPermutes so to be prepared for this.

The PR34592 -O0 regression is an unfortunate failure to cleanup with a later pass that calls SimplifyDemandedElts like the -O3 does - I'm not sure how worried we should be tbh.