[BOLT] Refactor interface for instruction labels. NFCI (#83209)

To avoid accidentally setting the label twice for the same instruction,
which can lead to a "lost" label, introduce getOrSetInstLabel()
function. Rename existing functions to getInstLabel()/setInstLabel() to
make it explicit that they operate on instruction labels. Add an
assertion in setInstLabel() that the instruction did not have a prior
label set.