[mlir] Fix python bindings build on Windows in Debug

Currently, building mlir with the python bindings enabled on Windows in Debug is broken because pybind11, python and cmake don't like to play together. This change normalizes how the three interact, so that the builds can now run and succeed.

The main issue is that python and cmake both make assumptions about which libraries are needed in a Windows build based on the flavor.
- cmake assumes that a debug (or a debug-like) flavor of the build will always require pythonX_d.lib and provides no option/hint to tell it to use a different library. cmake does find both the debug and release versions, but then uses the debug library.
- python (specifically pyconfig.h and by extension python.h) hardcodes the dependency on pythonX_d.lib or pythonX.lib depending on whether `_DEBUG` is defined. This is NOT transparent - it does not show up anywhere in the build logs until the link step fails with `pythonX_d.lib is missing` (or `pythonX.lib is missing`)
- pybind11 tr...