[clang][sema] consolidate diags for incompatible_vector_* (#83609)

removing the additions of `err_vec_builtin_non_vector_all` &
`err_vec_builtin_incompatible_vector_all`
caused by https://github.com/llvm/llvm-project/pull/83077.

Instead adding a select option to `err_vec_builtin_non_vector` &
`err_vec_builtin_incompatible_vector` to account for uses where there
are more than two arguments.