build: reduce CMake handling for zlib

Rather than handling zlib handling manually, use `find_package` from CMake
to find zlib properly. Use this to normalize the `LLVM_ENABLE_ZLIB`,
`HAVE_ZLIB`, `HAVE_ZLIB_H`. Furthermore, require zlib if `LLVM_ENABLE_ZLIB` is
set to `YES`, which requires the distributor to explicitly select whether
zlib is enabled or not. This simplifies the CMake handling and usage in
the rest of the tooling.