[libc++/abi] Allow running back-deployment testing against libc++abi

Before this patch, we could only link against the back-deployment libc++abi
dylib. This patch allows linking against the just-built libc++abi, but
running against the back-deployment one -- just like we do for libc++.

Also, add XFAIL markup to flag expected errors.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D91069