[mlir] split transform interfaces into a separate library (#85221)

Transform interfaces are implemented, direction or via extensions, in
libraries belonging to multiple other dialects. Those dialects don't
need to depend on the non-interface part of the transform dialect, which
includes the growing number of ops and transitive dependency footprint.

Split out the interfaces into a separate library. This in turn requires
flipping the dependency from the interface on the dialect that has crept
in because both co-existed in one library. The interface shouldn't
depend on the transform dialect either.

As a consequence of splitting, the capability of the interpreter to
automatically walk the payload IR to identify payload ops of a certain
kind based on the type used for the entry point symbol argument is
disabled. This is a good move by itself as it simplifies the interpreter
logic. This functionality can be trivially replaced by a
`transform.structured.match` operation.