[mlir][IR] Make `OpOperand` comparable (#70410)

Two `OpOperand`s are the same if they belong to the same owner and have
the same operand number. There are currently no comparison operators
defined on `OpOperand` and we work around this in multiple places by
comparing pointers.

Note: `OpOperand`s are stored in an op, so it is valid to compare their
pointers to determine if they are the same operand. E.g.,
`getOperandNumber` is also implemented via pointer arithmetics.