[clang(d)] Include/Exclude CLDXC options properly

This handles the new CLDXC options that was introduced in
https://reviews.llvm.org/D128462 inside clang-tooling to make sure cl driver
mode is not broken.

Fixes https://github.com/clangd/clangd/issues/1292.

Differential Revision: https://reviews.llvm.org/D133962

(cherry picked from commit 23ace26e)